What is No BS Coaching?  

Well, more than anything, it allows people to get control of their warring emotions so they can do the thing they want to do, without the constant internal battles.  

It really is just that simple…But,
What the hell does that mean?

You can think of a battle. For a visual, interclasp your hands in front of you. Once you do that, push as hard as you can against one another.  

This is usually what trying to change feels like.  

You can think of your Right hand as the "Better" that we want to do. For example, you might want to:
- Eat healthier
- Stop procrastinating
- Not be so angry
- Have a healthy relationship with your partner
- Workout more consistently
- Whatever the fuck you want,
Represented by your right hand...

"But" your Left Hand are your "Buts," which are the Reasons, Explanations, and sometimes Excuses, often deeply emotional, that stand in your way.  

For example, you may:
- Hate the taste of vegetables.
- Feel so overwhelmed
- Feel like people, (or more likely this "one motherfucker" (which is usually a family member, spouse, or ex, let's be honest)), really pisses you off
- Your communication isn't great and that person makes you feel like everything you do is "wrong," so you avoid conversations.
- Feel like you don't have any time.
- Or whatever your reason, your "But" is.

You want something (your right hand), you have at least one strong reason (your left hand), usually there's more than one reason, that keeps you from having and doing those things.

And then people have the audacity to be like, "You just NEED more self-discipline."

Which is just your right hand pushing harder.

And sometimes, it works…………..Very fucking infrequently.

It keeps pushing and pushing, and pushing, and pushing.

And after months and years, and years…it finally "wins."

Because this side (your left hand) just got tired.

But this hand (your right hand, your "Wants"), even if it wins, never feels secure, because it knows…that reason, that "But," might just come back at any time, rejuvenated. So it never feels comfortable, never at peace. 

What typically happens is the battles just happen incessantly and they never end.

I Want this, But…

And the want wins for a bit, and you feel good. You let your guard down and BAM! The other side starts pushing again and you end up at the same place, but feeling more discouraged because you know how fucking hard you're trying. You're at your wits end like, "Fucking shit. What the hell do I have to do?" 

And you know there's a battle, but you internalize being tired by saying shit like "I just don't have enough self-discipline, or willpower, or motivation," as though you haven't been fucking trying…but you're just fucking tired.

What I do is help people win. Not with the same old bullshit that hasn't worked a thousand different ways.

Because this is how you win, without having to constantly fucking work and have this "willpower" and constant fucking need for motivation…

So what do you do? (Hands)

You get these two to stop fighting.

And how do you do that…?

Your "But," is usually a strong emotional story you have within you.

(Get stronger with each one) But, but, but…

And you give it, what it wants...and you might not even know what that is right now.

But it's not a hard process.

And when you do that…
When you're able to provide it what it wants.

It just stops fighting.

And instead of this constant push against one another…you can finally put your hands down, and they just stop battling one another.  

If you've been battling for a while, then there might be a part of you that might go seeking out other reasons, excuses, and "buts" to battle, especially when changing anger, but what, much more often happens is this…

The other side rests too.

What that means is you stop making moralistic judgments about your actions and you just fucking do the thing.  

Sure, something in life might come up, but you deal with it, and get back on track.  

So can you imagine going through life, without these parts at constant war with one another? This battle for your time and "supremacy," and instead you…simply did what you knew you should. Without the inner bullshit.

That's what I help you do.

If there's something in your life you knew, if you could just do this one thing, you would feel fucking good, you would feel more secure in who you are, in being who you want to be, where you would have more confidence, not because of the outside results that you can't control, but because you were doing the things that you truly wanted to do, consistently without the bullshit, without the worries... 

Then I invite you to work with me.

And since this might be the first time you've even thought of doing something like this, there's no rush. Take your time.

Reach out and set up a call for a Free Consultation, or even easier, send me an email at [email protected].